John Gottman has given 7 principles to a healthy marriage. Before I go into more detail about one of these principles, I thought I would introduce them first. Here they are!
1. Enhance your love maps- know the little details about your spouse
2. Nurture your fondness and admiration- choose to think of your spouse positively and appreciate all the things they do for you
3. Turn towards each other instead of away- support each other in your struggles and go to your spouse for help
4. Let your partner influence you- you're forming a new life together and one person cannot dominate another. Incorporate parts of both of your lives to make new one.
5. Solve your solvable problems- be kind and forgiving while dealing with conflicts
6. Overcome gridlock- start talking and sharing your thoughts and needs
7. Create shared meaning- form your new life together!
Here is more information if you'd like to read more:
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/01/08/7-research-based-principles-for-making-marriage-work/
http://www.wisewives.org/blog/2012/04/05/34-elshiwick-on-gottman-seven-principles-for-making-marriage-work
Please leave a comment if you have a question or a personal testimony!
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